合法转载一篇让人感动的文字。
我们竟然也到了成家的年纪。
周围的人分分合合，结婚的结婚，离婚的离婚。结婚的写博客贴照片，离婚的悄无声息只得传闻。终究也就如此。这，难道不是生活的真相么？
直到看到我那十余年未曾见面的小学好友的QQ空间，看到她长长的新婚感言。当时便buzz：
每一个人做一件事的时候都要想，自己可能是别人的榜样，可能是正面，也可能是负面，这样，这个世界就会美好很多了。
这篇文章，真的，非常非常好。征求其同意转载如下：
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面朝暖阳，春暖花开。
妈妈的蔷薇花又要开了，我静静的守候着，终于等到了淡淡的绽开。
春节以来，一直在忙碌，两个人一起忙忙碌碌，每一周，每一天，每一个小时都被排得满满当当的，仿佛真是日理万机的样子。脸上的痘痘在向我无声的抗议，不过，我想一切都会慢慢理顺的，事情总会越来越顺当，痘痘总会越来越少。
一直以来不停有“群众性”领导通过各种渠道批评和声讨我的“悄悄咪咪”，还有人向我要照片，问我要录像看，问我近况，本同学汇报如下：
关于相识
茫茫人海每两个人相遇的几率真的很小很小，所以希望所有的朋友珍惜相遇，这种相遇是只可意会无法言传的奇妙。无论是什么机会或者什么方式相遇，不过是借着某种媒介罢了，一切都是造物主的定然，有你无法说的道理和玄妙。至于相识的这些点点滴滴，只供两个人珍藏，说出来就想香油瓶盖被打开一样，味儿散了，也就不香醇了。至于想通过我取经的同学，欢迎阅读于丹的一篇文章《关于婚姻》，内容在此从略。
关于婚礼
时间有点匆忙，所以不是主观上故意对你们“悄悄咪咪”，只是时间的紧凑型决定了我们没有那么多时间去大规模发布消息。安排在春节，很多原因。但是，最重要的还是因为两个人觉得都做好了建立的家庭的准备了，尤其是心理上的。加上穆斯林对日子基本没什么忌讳，所以订了就订了。之前知道筹备婚礼是个很麻烦的事情，很多人会筹备个一年半载的，没有房子不结，没有车子不结，但是过来人都说，婚姻是比房子车子还奢侈的东西。当然了，有的话当然更好。只是因为这个拖延时间，有点不符合我俩的价值观。所以所以所以……，价值观的匹配真的很重要。价值观被铸造于成长环境，社会阅历，家庭层次……我们俩因为彼此的价值观趋同而决定组建家庭，价值观就是我们的信仰。所以，有一些可有可无的东西被简化甚至删除了，于是时间也就能挤进来了。不过百忙之中，我们还增加了一点内容，去他的老家观摩，知道了他小时候生活的地方，爸爸郑重的告诉我：这是他生命的一部分，而也将是你生命的一部分。我感觉到老人家眼里某种特别的东西在闪耀。
我们在西宁按照伊斯兰的教义举行了简单但不失隆重的婚礼。仪式主体结构很简单，我戴着红色的盖头坐在邻屋，他戴着白帽和我父母以及很多迎亲的人在一起，阿訇看完我们俩的结婚证，给我们念了征婚词，就这样我父亲把我托付给了他。随后也有热闹的有地方特色的程序，但我感觉没什么本质的不同和特别，电视电影里的比我们专业多了，就不叙述了。
买首饰的时候，我很头疼，我自小到大就没怎么戴首饰，性格使然。有人说，不爱首饰的女人没女人味。可是，不喜欢就是不喜欢，管谁怎么说呢。可，当他带着我试戴着这一款叫“挚爱”的戒指时，我脸不可抑制的红了。是因为，导购员在书里翻到了这款的介绍，那一首小诗让我砰然心动，我细细的咀嚼着那段柠檬香的文字，感觉这款戒指就是为我们相遇的故事而存在的。我坦白，我的确是中了这段文字的毒，受毒很深，于是买了。看来我不是一个彻底的理性消费者。（总结教训：以后买东西要避免被文字煽动。）
盖头，白帽，不用化妆和穿婚纱，双方爸爸妈妈都在场。这就是我的婚礼的关键词。唯一遗憾的是，当时没有录清楚阿訇念征婚词的过程。有人问，没有婚庆公司策划很不专业，你会不会遗憾。其实，有多少婚礼的仪式是全美的？无论隆重和宁静，符合了自己的价值观就好了。无论什么形式，只要两个人一辈子都不会忘记这个不可复制的场景并一生遵守庄严的承诺，这，就够了。
关于婚纱照
因为彼此价值观的一致性，导致了大部分欣赏角度的一致性，于是我们从一开始就坚定的想照一套穆斯林的婚纱照。如果不是价值观一样，这样的想法显得过于奢侈了。所以所以，价值观匹配真的很重要。可是照这样的婚纱照只有外地有，于是被延期。知道的人都说，赶紧去照，不然以后连张相片都没有，回忆不起当年的幸福模样。如果这些照片仅仅只是供回忆的，我觉得我们俩都没有动力去照了。我们还是想这个相片有很多的用处。我们都不想在这个最幸福的时刻留下我们不喜欢的样子。如果有人好奇我会照成什么样，那就拭目以待吧：）
关于婚宴
之前我们很犹豫，如果严禁烟酒，会有多少人来？怀着忐忑的心情，我们顺利的举行完了两边的婚宴。感赞安拉！谢谢我们的父母，亲人，朋友，同事。尤其是我们的同事们，充分的尊重了我们的信仰，无一人抽烟喝酒。我和他穿着并不华贵但彼此都中意的穆斯林服装，至始至终，一如我们祈求的那样被尊重和顺利。他们参加过无数多金程序复杂的婚宴，而我这个无疑是最让他们诧异的一出，这样好像也比较容易达到“难忘”的效果吧，嘿嘿。唯一的遗憾是没在婚宴的时候播放我们两都中意的那首ALLAH KNOWS
关于婚房
爸爸妈妈和我们，表姐表姐夫，当然还有阿西亚小朋友（在这次布置当中，此小朋友堪称劳模，特此口头表扬。）一起动手布置了一个非常不专业却很“家”的婚房。以至于，我们每天早餐的时候，奶绿色的窗帘和着桌上奶绿色的装饰画，桌上翠绿色的骨质餐具，还有两位妈妈为我们精挑细选的两套红色系的精致被套。两颗心都暖暖的……
就这样，我们开始了我们的独立生活，开始操心买什么米，买哪种油，冰箱里的菜剩下什么了，边洗碗收拾边讨论明天中午带什么饭菜，周末去买肉再跟老板讲个价，厨房里的盐没了，醋该买了……。于是，厨房里在两个笨手笨脚的人的折磨中，开始飘出各式各样的味道。
NP姐说，感觉你们俩很自然就从新婚的浪漫过渡到了柴米油盐。我瞪大眼睛想了想，哦，对哦，是适应的还算自然。可能是我们俩都不是什么金枝玉叶，知道婚礼完就不是什么王子公主了，该干嘛就干嘛去吧。想起那天爸爸吃完我们的三菜一汤，我们都好开心哦。（不过某同学切的土豆，也让我叹为观止了一把）。后来，就是那天的炒面片有点失败，面揉的不错，主要是我，自我检讨三秒钟……。但是失败是成功的妈妈，我坚信，有某位同学坚定不移的做兼职小白鼠，并有此小白鼠做后勤保障，我相信我的技术会更上一层楼滴。（插播一段广告：另有同学希望做兼职小白鼠的（限周末）欢迎报名排队，领取VIP号码。）
各位领导，汇报完毕。这就是我的婚礼，注定会和我的无数经历和观念一样，让人或大跌眼镜，或瞠目结舌，或不屑，亦或疑惑。注定会跟我这个人一样，毁誉由人，不可复制，因为这世间只有一个我，只有一个他，只有一个如此的相遇。谢谢每一位支持并祝福我们的朋友，谢谢每一位理解并尊重我们的朋友，也谢谢每一位不解但友好观望的朋友。也衷心的祝福在每一种价值观下生活的你们也获得你们需要的幸福。
当我们郑重的承诺下这一辈的时候，我们肩上的责任就重了。这种重不是沉重，是一个幸福的重量，让人不容易飞起来，但也更加知道了脚踏实地。说到这里，忍不住想到这副图
“女人来自于男人的肋骨
她不是用男人的头或者以上的创造的
也不是用男人的脚或者以下的创造的
她来自于紧邻男人的一边
从他的胳膊底下被他保护
离他的心如此贴近而被深爱着”
我很喜欢这幅图，更喜欢这段话，所以打算以后房子装修好了就把它装饰好挂在餐厅里。其实真正的穆斯林婚姻里，没有大男子主义，也没有大女子主义，只是让人相互依偎相互珍惜相互做让自己和对方都觉得幸福的事情。而很多人没有做到，我们都需努力。如此如此……
原帖地址：http://user.qzone.qq.com/67722885/blog/1269499803
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最后，她告诉我，给穆斯林夫妻说“两世幸福”比“百年好合”还好。“因为我们俩觉得自己都很难活到一百年，可是我们相信有复生日。”
亲爱的，两世幸福。
March 26th, 2010 at 1:32 pm
泪如雨下，毫不夸张。
虽然虽然虽然……如今这世道，有时候誓言都透不过一张A4的纸，但是如果选择了，就要傻一点，就要去相信。然后再看月光的时候，才不会那么冷
另：图片在我空间相册的贴图里有。
另的另：结婚前一个忘年交给我的忠告，读过深以为然。贴在此处，共勉——-“磨合一定是从婚后开始的，到什么时候结束，以两个人的成熟和豁达有关，与学历和家世无关”
March 26th, 2010 at 2:46 pm
我也雨下了~
另外，让我感动的是，不管多久不曾见面，不管各自有着怎样的生活。我们总相信一些善意和美好，并努力让自己让别人都更好。——这种努力，本身就最值得记取了。
所以，我也要努力~
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